The truth of what happened

And the one thing I can say is:

I'm happy, we're happy, and we are in love

We never did what we did to hurt her,
We did it because we fell so madly in love that we just couldn't ignore it.
She had her own problems sure, and he was done with her because of that, and he was leaving her anyway and he wouldn't be with her now if we weren't together and I don't think she understands that her actions are apart of why this happened. Too much had transpired between them and he couldn't stand to pick her off the floor anymore, he couldn't stand the drunken nights, the constant self sabatoge she was capable of, he couldnt stand the loneliness of being with someone who needed to disengage, and he couldn't stand how he didn't feel truly loved because of it and the lack of communication, lack of connection, lack of motivation, lack of contribution, lack of actions, lack of true love. And I get it, sometimes two people aren't soul mates, things don't work out. Some people aren't meant to be and some people are.

I never went after him for some sort of revenge, I never went after him because I was a whore, I never went after him to destroy someone else's life. I loved, I fought for the man I loved, and he fought for me. And there are things that she needs to believe to be okay, like that he's a narcissist a sociopath, a cheater. But he's not. The truth is is that he fell in love with me, the truth is that he's loving, he's strong, he's kind, hes loyal, he's faithful, hes funny, he's smart, he's a hard worker, he's an amazing father, he's had his share of pain and more. He's a human being, he has flaws, and he hurt her. When he hurt her the guilt killed him, and some part of him still hurts because she didn't deserve it, she was just not his one.

She may think that he will do what he did to her to me, and maybe that will give her comfort, but I know and he knows that the trust we have and the love we have and the communication between us will transcend that. No one cheats unless they are unhappy, or feel unloved, or any number of reasons. But one does stay faithful when there is a true connection, true back and forth reciprocation, true honesty, and true trust. We choose to engage with ourselves, with eachother, and with the world. I know all his secrets and he knows mine, there is no altering that.
There is no blame between us, we accept when we hurt the other, and take it in ourselves to try better next time. Yes we have problems, but who doesn't, it's not the problems that define the relationship, it's the solution to those problems and fighting for the answer because it's what we do because we love eachother. We fight for eachother, and we fight for our daughter, because nothing is truly more important than the love we have between our family.

I feel like I paid the price for my happiness now: I was alone, I was abandoned, I was lost, I've had so much trauma, I am a human being and I've felt pain worth a thousands deaths in my body and soul,  I was trapped my whole life, and now I'm finally free. We were meant to be, we fell in love, and we're still in love. And ill apologize for the pain that we caused because of our actions, but I will not apologize for the feelings we have, the love and the happiness. I won't apologize for the truth. I won't apologize for our daughter who is the best thing besides our love that came out of this. And I won't cover up the truth of what happened, even if she does.

And I can forgive her for the things she says in spite, because despite all this she is the victim to our actions. And I hope one day that she can move on, and find her one, just like we did.